I'm not sure why I'm writing this blog really. I try and keep this website positive, happy and bright. But this morning I got a little prick from something that I read online and emotion hit me like a ton of bricks.
Frustration. Anger. Confusion. Rage. Sadness.
Every angry thought I have consciously suppressed in the interests of having a "normal" life came bursting to the surface. I remembered every time I've watched someone leave half an animal, untouched, on their plate because they're "not hungry". I remembered every time I've heard someone tell me that they absolutely would slit a cows throat with no worries, so "I'm obviously a carnivore". I thought about every time someone has said they do care, but just not enough to change.
I suppress so many thoughts in the interest of keeping friends and not being annoying that at some stage they do rear their unattractive heads.
I debate occasionally, if I feel like my opponent is genuinely interested (or needs telling!)....but mostly I just try to lead by example: be a happy, healthy, bright shining example of how easy being Vegan is. This is surely the best way to make change, right?
But of course the truth is: it's not always bright and shiny being Vegan. It absolutely isn't. Not if you CARE. If you care about animals and the future of our planet - it absolutely is NOT easy And after reading this tiny, stupid online comment this morning: I've felt this anger all day. At work. Having lunch. On the subway....isn't it odd? I feel so protective of Veganism now that when people talk down about it, it's so hard to just take higher ground. I want to yell, scream and fight back. But what good would that do? Just make everyone think I'm a "Crazy Vegan"?
Okay...time to spill....what was this horrible comment that has infultrated my entire day?
Well, of course, it wasn't even that bad really, now that I write it down, but here goes.
In my Facebook "newsfeed" this morning, a guy that I used to study with posted the following status: "To be a true fuck head, one must first become Vegan."
There it is.
Why did this upset me so much? Is this post by someone that I like, respect or am even friends with?
No, no and no.
Is this post by someone that I think people will read and take his opinion on any kind of lifestyle seriously?
So, why am I so upset? It's true that I judge the merit of what people say based on facts, but also the credibility and respect I award to that person. If someone that I have a high amount of respect for says something, I'm more likely to listen. Therefore I'm less likely to listen or take seriously anything that comes out of an idiots' mouth. And trust me: the person who posted this status is the epitome of an "an idiot". I studied with him for years and very few people had a shred of respect for him.
So why am I so upset?
I wanted to comment. But I didn't. What would I have said? And what would it have achieved? Absolutely nothing except perhaps reinforce his ideas about vegans. So, once again (like so often in this lifestyle) I felt powerless. And the silly thing is that no matter how much good I feel I have achieved by going vegan, no matter how great my day at work is or how cute the boy was who smiled at me while I walked home - any good is erased by one negative comment about my chosen lifestyle.
So strange! What is wrong with me?
Is it because I feel that Veganism is SUCH an important part of humanity's future that it pains me when people don't take it in any way seriously? Is it because I don't understand why something that is literally NONE OF THEIR BUSINESS should provoke such negativity from people? Is it because I feel personally attacked in some way?
Yes, yes and yes.
I don't know what big message I can take away from this (I'm always determined to grow!). I guess that there will always be people in the world who are going to be negative and talk negatively about things they don't understand... that's a given. There will always be people who disagree with you. There will always be idiots.
Also: question people's motives and remember that only we are responsible for our own joy and happiness. I chose to let that stupid comment get inside my head and ruin my day. That was all me, nothing to do with the person who posted the status. I didn't think: "hmm why would he be so anti-veganism?" I just thought "Oh god! Don't post negative stuff about vegans! We need all the vegans we can get! And how dare you think it's a stupid thing! How dare you! It's the most important thing in the world!"
Not a rational reaction.
My new years resolution? To be calmer, wiser and more together :) I think I'll help the Vegan cause a lot more that way. I also would like to attend more animal-rights protests and sign as many petitions as I can.
Happy New Years!
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