Not that long ago - I had to do a bit of repairing. Bit of old rebuilding and investing some time being by myself and just making myself happy. Basically being a bit selfish.
It was great.
The first thing I did was ask a very simple question: "what do I enjoy doing?"
It sounds so simple, doesn't it? Yet how many of us spend time doing what actually makes us happy?
I think we accidentally invest too much time and energy in things that don't matter or do not pay off. We do jobs we don't enjoy, spend time with people we don't actually like, eat foods that don't serve us and before you know it, it's time to go to sleep again and you've spent another day just "existing", but not actually DOING anything worthwhile.
And worthwhile doesn't have to involve inventing something or writing a symphony or saving lives (congrats if you do that, by the way) it can just be whatever is worthwhile for YOU. Investing in yourself, doing what makes you happy.
A long time ago I decided to start living my life a little bit more selfishly. I was investing all my time in other people and, while that is a good thing in some respects, you can only be the best "you" for other people when you're actually happy. Right?
Every day now, I have "Hannah Time". Even if it's just an hour before starting work... I make sure I have some time that is just mine, all by myself. If it can be a full evening: amazing, but that's rare these days. I'm sure it's rare for most people to have an entire day or evening to themselves. Some wouldn't even know what do to with themselves for an entire day!
So, that's exactly why this is homework. Trust me: you will love this.
Find a day. An entire day that is JUST FOR YOU. A day to be selfish. A day to INVEST in yourself. Doing exactly what YOU want to do. I know it seems impossible - even if you start small and just find an EVENING that is yours alone - that'll do for now. But the goal is an entire day.
Yes - I am asking you to organize one complete day off from your life. I'm crazy.
If you have children and a job and all the rest, half a day will do fine, but try and get a solid six or seven hours MINIMUM to yourself.
We are going to design your perfect day.
The is the first day of the rest of your life.
Not literally, obviously. I am not asking you to quit your job. This day is intended to put you into a clear, pure mindset that you can carry over into your normal life. A mindset where you find the simple, easy things that you want to fill your life with and find a way to incorporate them into every day life.
Now: sit down and think about all your favorite things to do; things that make you happy. Things you never get time to do?
It can be anything you like.
Plan a wonderful day, full of activities (or ZERO activities!) that you feel will make you happy, excited and stimulated. Get your hair done? Do a Yoga class? Lie in the park? See a movie? All the above? Do whatever you like.
My Day Went Something Like This
1) Did not set an alarm
2) Cuppa hot lemon.
Sat down for ages, checked some emails, did some stretching .. stared at the sun....
3) Took myself out for Breakfast.
No one needs to witness how much I want to eat in the morning.
4) Walked around for ages and enjoyed the sun.
Stopped in some shops. Didn't buy anything, but enjoyed looking and trying things on.
Vowed to eat less breakfast.
5) Stopped for a coffee. Did some blogging :)
Planned my next recipe for Vilda Magazine. Did some writing as well for my theatrey stuff!
Then - saw a divine friend for lunch :) They weren't very vegan friendly, so I ordered a MASS of side dishes. How well did that work out!
6) Came home. Changed into sweatpants and went for a little walk around the park.
Walking around the park was incredible... especially as the weather is so good right now.
Look what I found! Some kind soul left a deck chair in the middle of the park. Guess the world revolves around me, after all?
I ended up sitting here for ages in the sun, listening to my favorite podcast: Conversations with Richard Fidler. (That my incredible vegan mother produces and my incredible vegan best friend works on! Just sayin...)
7) Home for a real, proper, amazing shower.
Did ALL the beauty routines I never have time for normally. (You know what I mean...)
Then a very lovely, relaxing time MAKING DINNER. Played some music... danced around... chopped vegetables.
8) Dinner and a movie.
All on my own. Perfection.
I cannot tell you how light, happy and fulfilled I feel after spending some time alone with myself, my thoughts and ideas. It’s something we do not get enough time for, but it’s so important. Also: as an entire western world: we put too much emphasis on consumption. It disgusts me a little. We have such an abundance of everything, especially food. Go to the library and read for hours, go volunteer somewhere, go shopping! Go to the beach and drink lemonade! Or maybe go to the DVD store and rent out an entire TV series you’ve been dying to watch. Whatever it may be, do it.
Be the woman you’ve always wanted to be. Even just for a day. Do all the things you want to do. And hopefully, these things can spill over and find their way into your routine.
I honestly believe just taking a day out of life every now and then is one of they keys to happiness. It connects us with the reality that life is not bad. At all. Life is actually very good. We are lucky, LUCKY people. How amazing that one of our biggest problems is that we want to be thinner? Or have more money? Or have more TIME? How amazingly lucky are we? How amazing that we have the power at our fingertips to actually do whatever we want. Life has its restrictions and it’s schedules, we have our own personal restrictions, but ultimately…. We are in charge of our own lives and we determine how happy or unhappy we are. We determine our mindset and we determine how long we stay there.
I really hope you can take a day out yourself soon. One day.
What's a day, really? It can mean nothing.
Or it can be the best day ever!
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