I'm not going to lie... I'm slightly in shock. Here I sit, doing what I love: writing.
I have been craving to sit down and write a proper blog post for months. Literally months. That's the sad thing about hobbies we love - they always take a back seat to 'real life'.
Things have been very hectic lately - I opened a play in Manchester that I was both performing in and producing (never do that), beginning a job hunt, juggling a few other lovely projects... It's been hectic to say the least.
And always, when I am busy, this blog is the first thing to suffer. It's my private, selfish, happy place, so if you haven't heard from me in a while, it's evidence that I'm stretched too thin and not having enough 'Hannah Time'. Which is dangerous. We should always be making time for ourselves. But also, it's not the only thing to suffer - everything does - sleep, exercise, relationships, making time for my family... Our foundations are foundations for a reason, we need them to be our best selves and take whatever life throws our way. When you don't have those basics in place, it can be a lot harder to cope when the going gets tough.
Life has been a funny old thing lately. In many ways I've been living a dream, performing, producing, building my theatre company, spending time with friends. I'm incredibly lucky. But there is something about our society that makes me feel like I can't ever just be settled and content. I sometimes feel that everything around me is designed to keep me dissatisfied. Designed to make things more difficult than they need to be. Of course, this may just be me, my natural anxiety, my investment in wanting things to go perfectly getting in the way of me being able to just stop and enjoy life.
But whether it's me or society, it's there. This niggling dissatisfaction with things. It's like until I'm a full-time actress who doesn't have to worry about money or time, I will be dissatisfied, which is of course complete nonsense because there have been many times in my life - as a barista, a waitress, a producer, a social media guru and everything in between - that I've been happy. I'm not only happy when I'm acting, not at all, so it's time to focus on the little things. Time to remember that whatever is happening in life, wherever we are on the long path, life is amazing. It's brilliant and it's here to be LIVED.
Here's how I'm going to spend the next few weeks, soaking up the small things, getting back on track and remembering how lucky I am.
1. Money is not important
Can I pay rent? Can I eat? Can I survive?
Well guess what? i'm a hell of a lot luckier than most. And that's a fact. It's time to stop panicking about money all the time. It's not healthy and it's also not necessary. Money is out there and it can be made by getting a shitty bar job, working in an office or doing any number of things. The one thing it's not is impossible. Get a job, make the most of it, and stay focused on the more important things in life. Get a job that will enable you to do the things you really love and don't get bogged down in thinking it defines you. It doesn't. This is me talking to myself here, in case you hadn't noticed....
2. Life is not about success
I care a lot what people think. GASP. Anyone who knows me will smirk reading that, because it's so painfully evident to those in my life. But for anyone who just reads this blog, you may think I'm a carefree person who lives their life with a smile and not a care in the world.... not true. I get very bogged down when I feel I'm not meeting expectations or not the person others think I am. Crazy, I know. But I'm working on it.
Something that I know will help keep me on track is remembering that NO ONE CARES. We are all too wrapped up in our own lives and insecurities to really invest that much time in what's happening to others around us. Especially to monitor and consider their successes and failures. It's just not a thing. Do I spend a moment of my time considering other actresses around me and their auditions? No.
I'm going to keep telling myself that the same applies to others around me. And cross my fingers.
3. Remember the vitality of basics
Although I hate him now, I always remember Durianrider (a vlogger) reciting the mantra "sleep, sugar, water, sleep, sugar, water" over and over again.
It comes into my mind when I'm tired and frazzled and I know that my "basics" are not in place. I'm not sleeping enough, I'm not drinking enough water and I'm certainly not getting enough fresh fruits and vegetables. Over the last few months, the busier that I've become, the more I've let myself slip into the mindset of 'it's okay, I'll just have another coffee"... "it's okay, I'll just grab something quick"... and it really isn't good. Sure, it doesn't matter once or twice, but it really does build up and start to become habit. I think about Hannah a few years ago, who was eating so well and so prioritised what she put in her body and I almost can't believe how I've shifted. It's amazing how our foundations can slip when our priorities do. But it's important to remember WHY they are foundations. They matter. And I need to remember that.
Sleep, sugar, water...
4. People are golden and vital
I am surrounded by some exceptional people. Truly. I need to make sure I see them, make time for them and for myself too. That's all.
5. If you're a creative person - you don't need permission to be creative
Do creative things. Always. I am a creative soul and I need to (again) stop slipping into the trap of thinking that my job is where I do what I love. No. I love creating and I can and SHOULD do it anytime. So, Hannah, get back to the blog and do some writing, you love it. Get back to those million stories you are working on and devising. Take some time away from the Clinton/Trump saga and do some writing instead. It's oxygen. It's breath. It's so incredibly important.
If you're a creative person in any way. Do it. Get in a room with some friends and make a piece of theatre, write a poem, draw something. On the way home from Liverpool with my partner a couple of weeks ago, I sketched the man asleep opposite us and I am NO ARTIST. The drawings were crap, but I loved doing them. It was fun. And it was way better than just listening to a podcast to pass the time. Which leads nicely into my next point....
6. Time In Our Own Brains
How much time do we really spend just with our own thoughts, in our own minds? These days, I'll guess most of us have barely any without a computer, music, radio, friends....
I used to be very good at making sure I had time without any noise blasting in my head for at least some small part of the day. Even if just while walking to the bus stop, or before bed, whatever it may be. Our minds are full of thoughts, inspirations, ideas, worries... the list goes on. And if we have no time to let that all mull over and stew and process, that's usually why we can't get to sleep at night! Because our minds are turning over all of the things that it has not been able to throughout the day.
Let your mind think, let it settle. Don't give it non-stop entertainment. It doesn't need it.
7. Be Grateful For Everything
Final bit of wank. Be grateful for everything. This is what I need to improve. Because, I'm always so keen to IMPROVE. I want more, I want better, I want the best. It's time to enjoy every tiny thing that I'm so lucky for. Who knows what will happen tomorrow...
Love and sweet potatoes,
One of my favourite things about having this blog, is that I get to reach people. People I do not know, but get to connect with over something so important and personal.
I still don't understand HOW anyone finds my words helpful, but the fact they do, makes me very happy.
An email I got today inspired me to write as much of a reply as I could. Olivia got me at a good time. I've had a lovely long holiday in Cornwall, and am sitting on a seven-hour train journey home. It felt like a perfect time to thank her for her lovely words and, as much as I can, help her with this tricky situation....
Hmmmm tricky! I SO sympathise with Olivia. There are many people out there who want to change their lives, however big or small, but feel they cannot because of others. I've been there myself, not just with veganism.
I sat down on the train, to write Olivia as decent of a reply as I could, which I hope may be useful to anyone out there having the same concern. For any "intense" vegans out there, you may not like my reply - as I do not tell her "GO VEGAN NO MATTER WHAT!" because I'm not insane. I hope this is sound, USEFUL advice that can truly help you Olivia, and anyone else out there....
Also - I'm going to litter this post with AMAZING vegan food pictures - you know, any extra inspiration ;)
Thank you so much for your lovely message. It really made my day. I’m happy you found my website that inspiring.
I really sympathise with your situation. It’s very difficult to go against what our families do. Diet and most lifestyle choices really are quite personal things and we don’t want to feel like we are critiquing others by choosing a path different to them. Especially our parents! When I went vegan, there was definitely a difficult “patch” when my family didn’t understand what I was doing and had concerns. However, I must confess, I was 22 at the time, not 15 like you are - so it will likely be even more challenging for you.
My honest advice would be to sit down with your parents in a really calm, reasonable way and tell them that you’re thinking about giving up meat and animal products (or maybe just start with meat if that feels too scary?) and ask them how they would feel about that? Tell them it feels important for you to try because you feel vegetarianism might be the right way forward for you. You’ve done lots of research and know it’s a healthy way to live and would like to give it a try. I think having a sense of flexibility, calmness and kindness in the air, will get a better reaction than announcing you’re now vegan and they have to “like it or lump it” ;) I don’t think anything like that would ever get a good response!
I don’t know your parents, of course, so maybe tailor how you tell them to what you think will work best. But i imagine that most parents would want to feel they have some input into their children’s lives and they want to know you value their opinion.
Great question about what can curb their concerns. If you think their main concern will be your health, and not worrying that you’re rocking the boat (which was my situation) that’s great news. If you need evidence to show them how healthy veganism is, I recommend looking at www.vegsource.com and a great YouTube channel to look at is The Unnatural Vegan. She does an entire video on Vegan Nutrition which is very helpful and worth a watch :)
My personal advice on nutrition would be to just eat as much FRESH fruit and vegetables as you can, with some nuts and good starchy potatoes/sweet potatoes/parsnips in there. Obviously get in some vegan sweets and fun recipes (like burgers, pastas, etc) - but as long as you’re getting in some fresh stuff every day, you will be right as rain. I DO recommend supplementing vitamin B12, but primarily because all studies done on B12 suggest that almost every human on the planet is deficient and we should all be supplementing, due to the lack of nutrients left in our soil, but it can often get palmed off as a “vegan issue”, when the evidence proves otherwise.
As a last resort, I believe a really nice option for you could be to just do whatever you can at this time in your life. Maybe eat as little meat as you can at home, choose vegetarian or vegan when you go out with friends for meals, or when you cook for yourself, but don’t feel you have to rock the boat too much if you feel it will upset things too much? Then, when you move out, you are free to eat and do as you please! You can eat a fully vegan diet and feel the benefits for yourself, without the negativity of having to do it at home. Having said that, I hope, and do truly believe, that by finding this path and doing it in a very positive, happy way, you can bring some new information and inspiration into your parents' household. You can introduce new yummy vegan recipes, some very healthy choices, and best of all, that compassion for animals, which so many people are completely closed to until someone opens their eyes. You can do that for your parents, as I did mine.
My Mum is now a vegan and my Dad is a vegetarian, something I didn’t think would EVER happen when I made the decision to go vegan. Don’t get me wrong, it didn’t happen overnight, but it did happen in time. It’s amazing what a positive influence we can have on people without even knowing it.
I really hope that helps, Olivia.
Love and Sweet Potatoes!
- Hannah xx
Over the last few months I've had the ENORMOUS pleasure of being involved with the 2016 Veganuary Campaign Video!
Over two days of filming I met so many fantastic, inspiring people. I went to two of my favourite places in Manchester, got to eat phenomenal food, meet so many like-minded people and most importantly, spread the Vegan message.
I'm so happy with the finished result; it embodies how I feel about a vegan lifestyle and what I want to shout from the rooftops. Being vegan does NOT have to change your life. It doesn't have to turn you into a new person, stop you from doing anything fun or change your personality.
It is simply a PART of who I am. An important part and a part that has changed me for the better, but it will not stop me eating in restaurants, being fit and active, eating delicious food or hanging out with my friends.
It's a detail, a detail that will be as important as YOU make it. It can take over you life if YOU want it to - but it does not have to. Life is about balance, doing what makes you happy and what will make your life better. For me, going vegan has only made my life better. I'm healthier, more compassionate and have more understanding of the world I live in. I've debated so much in the last four years - I've heard every anti-vegan argument there is. Some intelligent, some not-so-intelligent, but they all make me think. I do not and will never live my life in a vegan bubble, believing only what some people tell me. I want the whole story. I want the entire picture. And it is that very attitude that has gotten me here. This lifestyle makes sense, it checks out, it's logical and it's VARIED. Most anti-vegan arguments can be debunked with a simple Google, others are for brains far more powerful than mine.
But, if it's a risk I'm taking - I'd rather risk eating plants than eating innocent animals. We are over 10 billion land animals a year now... slaughtered.... for our stomachs. That doesn't even account for marine animals. Seriously people, the madness must stop. And what great timing with the most recent World Health Organisations report on Meat and Cancer. The facts keep rolling in and we KNOW animal products ARE NOT HEALTHY. Red and processed meats are finally without debate now (though many will try). The rest will follow, I guarantee it. Studies like this take time and the WHO most recent report took 800 studies into account. That shit takes time. So again, why wait for the study that will tell us what we know to be true.
Go vegan - save some animals and let's build a better planet together. The entire world will never be vegan and I know that. If you want to keep eating meat, please, at least try and find the most local, sustainable option.
If you know anyone who is flirting with the idea of giving up animal products - please do "share" this video with them and inspire them to take up the Vegan Month challenge.
It's only 30 days and there is so much support from an enormous, caring community.
Not long ago, I posted about the changes my life has undergone recently - mainly in the form of employment. After ten years of making coffee I had reached my wits end. I have creative dreams and ambitions, but no idea when these will become something tangible; more than just a dream or a hobby.
Can what I love ever become what pays the bills?
What has kept me sane over the last ten years has been - BEING BUSY. So busy. So, so busy. Any creative endeavour I can sink my teeth into - I will. Any company I can get involved with, any acting role, writing, blogging. I love it all. I love it, but none of it pays. Occasionally an acting job will give me some money, occasionally I will be able to get some added income from a freelance job, but mostly - my income has been: coffee-making. Cafes. Hospitality.
I've been an actress, a producer, an administrator, a writer, a social-media wiz, a production manager... you name it - I've probably done it. I took a two-year internship in an independent theatre space basically doing every job under the sun to help keep the place afloat and didn't receive a single pound. That's how desperate I was and AM to do what I love.
I have taken almost any opportunity to act, to be in the theatre, to be creative. If someone asks me to be involved in something - I say "yes!" and this attitude has served me incredibly well thus far. The downside has always been time. I spend most of my life feeling like I'm chasing time, which isn't ideal. It seems the opposite of what every 'self help' book and wise friend tells you do. Time is precious and it's so important to stop and make time for ourselves. I'm good at that....when I have time. I am brilliant at being alone, brilliant at relaxing with my laptop in my favourite coffee shop, but the issue just seems to be WHEN.
If you've read my Getting Creative With Your Income post, you will know that I quit my job three months ago. God, it's only been three months. I took a temporary opportunity while re-building my life in every aspect - creatively, professionally and personally. Some aspects I took control over - namely a theatre company, but others have simply come my way and Lord, let them stay.
Five Weeks After Quitting My Job....
Five weeks after quitting my job I received an email from a brilliant and inspiring writer and entrepreneur, Ravi. My theatre company (Play With Fire) approached her about mentoring us into our first endeavour, which she accepted with open arms and was an enormous help.
Then... this email. How mysterious. But every gut feeling in me knew it was good. I've been burned a few too many times to get overly excited about potential opportunities, but something about this felt different. Safe. Secure. Dare I say - professional. In the creative world there are a lot of people "talking the talk" and not a lot of actual results. I have fallen victim too many times to people who talk the talk and started to lose hope that a creative position would ever come my way that I could truly throw myself into without fear.
And... it actually happened. This incredible woman was in fact - offering me a job. And not just any job - a dream job. A job where I get to link brilliant people together, work on promoting creative work that truly helps people, that raises awareness, that tells stories that MATTER.
And why? Well - because she stalked me. She stalked my history, my endeavours, THIS BLOG. She knew I was a hard worker, that I shared her passions, that I would deliver on my promises. I can't believe my long history of attempts to find a suitable career and all of my volunteered experience actually got me to this moment.
I will never forget sitting with Ravi, in the sunshine at her beautiful home and just thinking: 'this is what all my work has been for. This is why I took all those opportunities, why I didn't get that role, why I quit my job.... because of Ziggy's Wish'.
I have now been working with Ravi for seven weeks and it is a true dream. It's hard work and a full time emotional investment - but it's incredible. It feels like the answer to a lot of questions I have had about what my future involves and how I'm meant to pursue my skills.
What an incredible feeling.
And of course - my own theatre company - Play With Fire. Play With Fire was a dream set-up between myself and my best friend Daniel. We knew that we could produce theatre, we knew we could do it well, but - we wanted to do it properly.
There is a lot of inspiring work being done in Manchester; it's a thriving, exciting city. BUT - there are a lot of people working for free. I personally have worked for free FAR more times than I've been paid. It's an assumed thing. We are making a play, you're doing what you love, therefore - we don't have to pay you. Wouldn't be accepted in any other field, right?
So - Play With Fire was born - a company where Dan and I could make the kind of theatre we care about and do it as professionally as we know how.
The first step was to seek funding. And our approach to funding encompasses everything I'm trying to say in this post. Namely - WE WORKED OUR BUTTS OFF. Dan and I spent literally months on this application. We drafted and redrafted - we gave it to many professionals to read over and edit for us.... we made sure it encompassed our goals as best we could, we crossed everything, kissed it and sent it off. Perhaps one day I will find the time to write about the day I found out we were successful (it's a bangin' story) but for now - let me just say - it was a brilliant day. We got the funding and the incredible, mad rollercoaster to Orphans began.
I am seeing the results of my hard work every single day and know that I have never been so creatively satisfied. I spend my days with Ravi and Stacy in the beautiful Ziggy's Wish office, scouring the internet for inspiring stories to share, I am involved in some truly intimidating conversations about future projects that terrify me, but I know will help me grow. Then, in my evenings and spare time, I get to work on Play With Fire, my own baby. I get to write exciting emails, update our website, write the next schedule....
I may be a nerd. But I love it.
And, best of all, my life feels perfectly balanced at this point. I am still working two days a week in the beautiful zen of Oak Street Cafe, which I value so so much. And - without it, I wouldn't be able to take beautiful photos like this (and eat beautiful meals!)
A life COMPLETELY without hospitality still seems a bit strange. It's been an enormous part of my life for TEN YEARS - it's paid my rent, it's given me daily entertainment and, surely, the reason why a quiet cafe with an easy-to-reach powerpoint and yummy soy latte is one of my favourite places to be.
But - What About Your Blog??
I feel truly sad that blogging has had to take a back seat over the last few months. This place, my happy place, is so important to me. Here - I get to connect with you all - I get to WRITE, I get to share my thoughts and feelings and, best of all, hear your thoughts back.
I need this. I will never stop. It just may be a little less regular. I promise you - delicious meals are still happening every day and I'm trying to stay diligent on Instagram! ;)
What was the point of this post?
Really to say - work hard. Try everything. And if you WANT to throw yourself into something - do it, even if you're fearful the payoff may not come. It likely will, even if in an unexpected package.
I truly have never been happier. My future has never looked so bright. And a day like today, where I have done NOTHING except eat delicious food with my partner, sit in front of my laptop to write and am heading out to a movie later, are so so precious because they are so rare.
Love and Sweet Potatoes,
I'm lucky to know a lot of wise and amazing people.
My mother is a constant source of inspiration; the most brilliant and accomplished woman I know. She can solve any problem and never fails to make me feel empowered. My Father overflows with wisdom from a phenomenal amount of life experience and is always there if I need his advice or help. I'm currently living with my best friend Dan and he is the smartest, wisest, most compassionate person you'll ever be lucky enough to enter a conversation with. Finally, I have a network of incredible girlfriends and when we get together to unpack each others lives, it's brilliant and complex and inspiring. I want to record everything we say for posts just like these.
My loved ones are constantly helping me. I take little pieces of them all when I need help, a pep-talk or just to feel better as I go about my day. (Especially needed now I live in another country!) I think, thanks to all their wonderful advice over the years and my own life experience, I'm finally starting to understand how to make the most out of life. How to ENJOY it. How to CONQUER it.
It's an amazing feeling.
So, here is a little summary of some of the BEST advice I've received. Some from myself, some from others, some from midnight revelations....
All of which help me on a day-to-day basis.
YOU Are In the Drivers Seat - Don't be a Passenger.
How empowering to just accept the reality that we are in control of our lives? 100%.
That may sound simplistic, but I like to not over-complicate things. Over-complicating can be detrimental, especially when talking about a very simple fact. YOU are the only person who has to live your life. If you're not happy with something, you CAN change it. If you are feeling overworked, you CAN take something off your plate. If you don't like your relationship, you CAN leave it. If you are bored, you CAN find something that excites you. I know life isn't simple, but for the most part - we don't do things because we can't be bothered, or we think it's too hard, or we are worrying about others, or we are simply afraid....
Fear has a lot to answer for.
I find personal control empowering, especially when I'm not happy with decisions I've made. It means I can look at my involvement getting there, instead of just feeling like a victim and being unhappy with my circumstances.
I'll never forget the Skype session when Dan explained this concept to me. He said: "Hannah, on some level, you've chosen this. You WANT to do this, even if it's subconscious ... It's okay to not be happy right now, or regret making that choice, but don't act like you're trapped. You're not. Just start making new choices...."
And he was right. As soon as I realized I didn't want to be doing that anymore - I made new decisions, that eventually took me on a new path. It wasn't overnight, but I did it.
Because I'm in the drivers seat.
Commit to Your Feelings
My Mother always taught me gratitude.
We are some of the luckiest people in the world and we should always be aware of that.
I'm conscious every day to keep my "problems" in perspective. If my "problem" is that I've double booked myself, or I'm having a bad day at work or I'm worried I've pissed someone off, it's a pretty good life, isn't it? My problems aren't how I'm going to feed myself, or how I'm going to leave my abusive relationship or how I'm going to look after my children. I am grateful every single day.
My Mum is so selfless that when she's having a bad day, she will fob it off because "we are so lucky" and it doesn't compare to the suffering of others. I love this amazing woman. What a role model, huh? On these days I'll make her a cup of tea, hold her hand and then say, "Mother, just because people are worse off, doesn't mean you don't deserve to feel upset sometimes, or hard done by."
By denying feelings it makes them harder to get over. It's okay to have bad days and to be upset and give time to our emotions.
We are all human! As long as we spend most of our time being grateful, I think we certainly are entitled to the odd bad day. Better that then let it build up into something far worse. You are not ungrateful for all your blessings if you have a bad day or want to have a cry. I love having a cry!
At least a cup of tea and a hug can solve most of our bad days. Let's be grateful for that.
Self Sabotage is a Safety Net
How terrifying to be confident. To just be really super confident and happy with yourself? Isn't it easier to fail yourself before others can?
I am guilty of this. If everything feels like it's going well and I have no problems, sometimes I'll just create one. I'll start worrying about my body, something that hasn't happened yet, something that MAY happen, money... Things I wouldn't even be thinking of if I had an ACTUAL issue to focus on.
I self sabotage.
I know I can do something, I know I can nail this audition, I know I can talk to that guy, know I can wear that dress ... but I'll talk myself down or make myself feel bad and, essentially, take myself out of the running.
And I finally know why. Thanks to great advice ;)
Because if I was just "happy" with everything: I had my dream body, was the best actress in the world, had flawless confidence, money to burn.... and I STILL failed... I STILL didn't make it ..... Then what do I have to blame? What can I blame if I never become a successful actor? What can I blame if I never fall in love?
Well... nothing. How much easier it is to have a scapegoat. How much easier it would be to say: well, I'm a bit chubby, so I'm not gonna be famous. Or - well, I missed a lot of auditions, so maybe one of those was the big one.
Imagine not having ANYTHING to blame? That's scary.
We need to stop self-sabotaging and let go of the scapegoats. By putting them in front of us, they will become more and more real.
It's Okay To Be Selfish
You will be the best "you" for everyone else around you, when you are well, happy, content, energized and looked after. No question.
Being selfish is NOT a bad thing.
It means you are investing in yourself so you can give more to those in your life. Be better for everyone who is relying on you, who enjoys your company, who needs your help. You can only do these things if you're looked after yourself.
Be selfish. Take time for yourself. Put yourself first. Ironically - it's quite selfless.
No One Is Watching You
(Just a quick hilarious note - I love this photo I took in a coffee-shop of this woman, looking so peaceful and zen. She was in her own little world and it inspired me. I wanted to use it for this point - but it's ironically called "No One is Watching You".... even though I was doing just that. Hehe. Okay, hilarious point made, now on with the wisdom!)
Are you doing anything for other people? Are you still in a degree you don't want to do because you're afraid of what people will think? Are you still in a relationship because you don't want to seem like a failure? Are you not doing what you want to do because you're afraid of judgement?
I'm sorry to sound harsh... but NO ONE CARES WHAT YOU DO WITH YOUR LIFE. If anyone truly cares - it should only be caring that you are happy. Anyone who wants you to do something that is stressful or negative or unsatisfying - are not worth bothering about.
If you are someone who compares your life to others, making assumptions based on news-feeds and engagement rings and happy selfies, I promise - those people are probably comparing their lives to yours and likely not as happy as they seem. The grass is always greener. One person's success is another person's failure. Everyone is (and should be!) too bogged down in their own worries to think about your life.
My friends and I all lead completely different lives. If I chose to - I could get upset thinking: "gosh, I'm just an unpaid actress, still making coffees, living alone ... all my friends have partners and are thinking about buying houses and making so much more money than I am.... " BLAH BLAH BLAH. But what is the point of that? Who knows? Maybe those amazing successful women envy parts of my life that I happen to treasure? Like my freedom, my creativity, my travel? I have DESIGNED my life to be exactly what I want at this point in time. Just as they all have. We all love these differences; it's what gives us our dynamic, our perspective and our empowering conversations! We all come from different perspectives and priorities.
Take inspiration from others, but never comparison. And remember you are in the drivers seat ..... do what YOU truly want to. Whether that's being the President, a Teacher or running a little cafe. People only want you to be happy.
(In my opinion) we only live once. So don't do it for anyone else.
Don't Question What Makes You Happy
I'm through with sweating the small stuff. I'm through with questioning why a Soy Mocha, a few hours and my laptop makes me happy. I'm through with questioning why I don't enjoy wearing make up. I'm through with questioning why I so much prefer to have a night in with friends rather than going out and get smashed.
I know what makes me happy.... IT MAKES ME HAPPY. So, why stress about it?
If you have things that make you happy, provided they don't hurt others, why stress about it? Why question it or worry about it? If having a glass of wine with your friends makes you happy, don't stress about it. If being a waitress makes you happy, don't worry you have to do anything more than just that! If sitting in a coffee-shop makes you happy, don't stress you should be out walking or doing more with your time.
All we really want is happiness. If you're enjoying something - you are succeeding where most of us are searching.
Kick back, relax.... don't question what makes you happy. Whether it's a job, a person, a past-time, an activity.
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