Well... firstly... Thanks everyone.
I posted about things being a bit negative and have been inundated with LOVE left, right and center. Now of course, life suddenly feels rich with love, friendship, potential and excitement. I ready to SEIZE! All these people and opportunities I have and need to savor every day.
I'm ready to get back to being the best version of myself.
That woman I want to be. The woman I know is in there... she is real, she's often here... but she's been forgotten about.
How do I get her back? How do we all get it back?
I have a simple formula to try and will let you know how it goes.
Remember what works....
When are you at your most relaxed and happy?
The last few days I've been trying to remember. When do I feel like myself? When do I not question things? When am I relaxed?
Think about spaces that make you happy... environments... people.
I will not feel guilty that sitting in a cafe makes me feel happy. It does. (It's also when I'm my most productive!)
See people. Make the time.
Not just anyone. The special people. The ones who make you feel like yourself. The ones who know you inside out and know in just a look that something isn't right. This usually also means you will be talking more, being honest more and therefore: minimal repression. It's genius.
Be Kind to Yourself
Use the language inside your own mind that you would use for the person you love most. Your mother... your best friend? Who ever it is. Give yourself that same love, care and admiration. Don't speak to yourself how you wouldn't speak of others.
None of us are superheros. We can't be perfect all the time. But we can give ourselves the best damn shot and that will involve some kind words. Some trust. Some love.
The List of Good Moments
Yes I'm a genius and one day I will dedicate an entire post to this and how it has impacted me... but the essential point is - sit down with a lovely piece of paper and write down a list of all the best things that have happened to you or moments that have made you happy.
It can be a complement someone paid you (I know the best one I ever got!), validation from someone you respect, being told "I Love You", whatever it may be. Write a list and look at it when you feel like shit. Deep stuff.
Love My Space.... Get the Zen
I am so guilty of this....I am happier when I put love into my home.
So do it! Your home, your bedroom, whatever your personal space.
If you're lucky enough to have your own place, make sure you are NESTING in it. Love it. Make it a sanctuary where you feel zen-like and comfortable. Have your own little private happy place. Cushions, candles, pretty pictures, mattress in the living room... .whatever floats your boat.
Respect My Body
If there's one thing I know about myself - I'm happier when I respect my body.
Love it. Respect it. Try to put good things in....
What's Your Mountain? Are you on it?
Don't feel shitty if you don't know what your mountain is, but if you know what it is: are you on it? I know my mountain is Acting and being so far way from it was putting me down in the dumps.
Even just today I've made changes to turn it around; simple ones, but it makes all the difference!
Even if you aren't climbing the mountain fast.... just getting on it in any way, even emotionally, helps :)
Use Your DAY! SEIZE it!
I have spent spectacular days sitting around doing nothing, but I can't pretend it makes me overjoyed long-term. I need to ACHIEVE. I know myself now and I just need to own this. I am happiest when I have achievements to show for my day, even if it's just a blog post! When I've been at work all day, I still want to have something to show for the last 12 hours... even if it's aching muscles from having done a gym class? Or perhaps a plate of brownies on the worktop?
Best is completing a full day of rehearsals or doing some writing :) Seize the day, make them all count!
Don't Look Back
Speaks for itself. What's done is done. All we can do is look forward. My divine friend, Jasmine, was talking about this earlier and hit it spot on. It's one of those things we know, but never really embrace.
A lot of the "cliches" are cliches for a reason, people! Because they're damn good advice that we don't embrace!
Stop dwelling on what's past. If you are holding negative feelings about things that have happened, stressing about them, stewing over them, you will only keep that negativity with you going forward.
Try to let go :)
An enormous "thank you" to everyone who contacted me after the last post. I truly am the luckiest person alive....
"Love and Sweet Potatoes" ;) xx
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